Living Relationships, 31 March – 1 April, Chernihiv

There are two extreme ways of finding yourself in a relationship, and a number of in-between ones. Which one a woman prefers to use determines the quality of her relationships. Here are the two extremes.

1. Mimicry – the Picture Woman

– This is conformity, that is, adjusting yourself.

Strategy – to study a man’s needs and match his expectations.
This lets you win his trust and become a convenient function in daily life. The risk is that girls like this get used and … alas, not loved.

A joke: “Be careful: fake Christmas baubles have been brought into town. They shine too, they’re round and coloured too – but the main thing is missing: there’s no joy in them.”

Risk – he leaves for a more alive woman.

The basis of the relationship – the need to give and receive protection. The wish to be needed. To gain value as a part of something valuable. Fear of loneliness.

Direction: Stability. The extreme of this is standstill and death.

2. Uniqueness – the Wild Woman

– This is being real: spontaneity, sincerity.

Strategy – to study yourself and stay true to your genuine desires and ways of showing up. Accumulated admiration for yourself and the world. Radiating generosity, lightness and a wealth of emotional expression.

A joke: – Miss, will you marry me? – No, but I approve of your choice.

Risk. You may frighten a man; out of fear he “puts out” the woman or runs away. You may fall in love with someone more “capable” – but is he really?The basis of the relationship: Freedom and Openness. Interest in the new. Expansion and development. To gain value as an autonomous self. Fear of responsibility and dependence.

Direction: Creativity. The extreme of this is chaos.

Just as there are no clear-cut archetypes, a living woman is somewhere between these extremes, and it is good to know at which stage of life which qualities to add in order to find a healthy balance in living relationships.

What will happen at the seminar:

• Tests to determine your strategies of movement: am I moving towards life or towards death.
• A test to determine the inner ages of your inner man and inner woman.
• Journeys into childhood
• Blind practices and breathing processes.