Evolutionary psychologist

Natalia Valitskaya

I transform limiting fears into new personal qualities that open a person up to their own power. I am a “guide” for the traveller looking for their own way of living as themselves.

Travel and love, climbing to summits outer and inner.

Natalia Valitskaya, full length, by a wall with a spiral, palms open

About me

“The therapy continues”

I have been counselling for “umpteen years”, since primary school. Even at a tender age I acquired the image of a “teacher-oracle”, and that shaped a particular reputation and calling. Ever since, wherever I find myself, “the therapy continues”. So I prefer to see life itself as a useful adventure. Let therapy, growth and evolution happen. I choose to help them along.

A beloved wife, and mother of a grown-up son and daughter.

Passions: mountaineering and hiking, diving, paragliding, and studying shamanic practices on different continents.

How do I do it?
I mirror: I reflect a person back, returning them to themselves. It is like being a child again: “pulling faces, mimicking, giving it back”. I also test for strength and honesty, and set off processes that develop and deepen and, of course, provoke. Sometimes outrageous, sometimes tender.
The goal
A better quality of life. Sometimes that takes a shift, sometimes going deeper towards more happiness and effectiveness. Going beyond the familiar, into new territory inside and/or outside. To where there is more life. Into the territory of clear goals.
How do I know the work went well?
When, after a seminar or a meeting, you want to live more than before. I love it when people feel joy or pride in themselves. A sense that their life is just as it should be, though before we met it seemed something was wrong and needed fixing. And then suddenly, everything falls into place: I am in my place and in my time, I am fine, unreasonably fine.
Natalia Valitskaya in a yellow jacket, smiling

Approach

Not “why” but “what for”

For the people who come to me, I offer guidance in development rather than classical psychotherapy.

Instead of the typical psychologist’s question, “Why did this happen to you?”, together we look for the answer to “What is this happening for?” Seen this way, any dramatic past becomes an ally and a support for your future.

The emphasis is not on rehabilitating trauma but on building abilities through work with the Shadow side of the personality.

No, harmony is not my goal. I believe in dynamic balance, and that is what I build. Instead of revolution, “it’s bad until Monday and from Monday it will be good”, I prefer EVOLUTION: “it was good, and it will be even better”. I see life as a flow, a dance, an unfolding spiral.

What a consultation is not, and what it is →

Fearlessness is not the absence of fear. It is when there is something ELSE, more important than fear: something that called you.

Natalia Valitskaya, 2015

I don’t believe in Astrology: I test it.

Natalia Valitskaya, 2013

To be ruthless is to respect your students, to see their strength and potential.

Natalia Valitskaya, 2017

Training and methods

Map, compass and techniques

Training

  • Higher education: Drahomanov Pedagogical University, Kyiv
  • An officially practising psychologist.
  • A specialist in transpersonal practices, integrative breathing techniques and methods of altered states of consciousness.
  • Years of immersion in Stanislav Grof’s transpersonal psychology: holotropic breathwork, rebirthing and the perinatal influence on a person’s worldview.
  • Has devoted herself to studying spiritual practices in different corners of the planet.

Roles

  • Family systems constellation facilitator and crisis therapist, a guide to the resource of the Shadow
  • Founder of the White Wind studio: extreme journeys, original trainings and mysteries
  • Rebirthing and holotropic breathwork, transpersonal psychology, shamanic rituals of the world
  • Alfa-Gravity trainer, author of a method of gravity practices
  • Dancer, contact improvisation teacher

Techniques

  • family systems constellations
  • holotropic breathwork and rebirthing
  • Voice Dialogue and psychodrama
  • retreats and vipassana
  • contact improvisation
  • astrology and the natal chart
  • art practices
  • transpersonal meditative journeys
  • shamanic practices
  • Human Design

Studio and name

White Wind and Sahis

The White Wind studio

An extreme laboratory of mysteries and adventures founded by Natalia. It hosts group and one-to-one work: breathwork, personal consultations, dialogue with sub-personalities, constellations, art practices, Human Design, extreme journeys and original mysteries.

Mysteries →

Sahis

The name Natalia uses for her personal Telegram, and the name participants in her mysteries call her by. She talks about names in this interview.

Sahis: an interview about namesin Russian

Summits

Summits outer

Extreme expeditions are also a ground for my own growth. To explore the true, ever-widening limits of human possibility, I “have to” seek experience beyond the edge.

5,642 m Elbrus · 2010 5,137 m Ararat · 2012 5,895 m Kilimanjaro · 2013 5,033 m Kazbek · 2016
  1. 5,642 m Elbrus 2010 · Caucasus
  2. 5,137 m Ararat 2012 · Turkey
  3. 5,895 m Kilimanjaro 2013 · Tanzania
  4. 5,033 m Kazbek 2016 · Georgia
  • 2011 Winter retreat in the Marmarosh range
  • 2014 Natural purity
  • 2015 In underwater caves
  • 2016 Lights of Rio and stars of the Amazon
  • 2017 Transformations
  • 2019 Madagascar, a vanishing paradise

Extreme journeys are perhaps the most transformative field of all. Climbing big mountains is no rehearsal in a therapy room: the experience is taken in by the body, by the breath, by the bones.

Testimonials

In their own words

I finally understood… after “Me and My Shadow” I understood that I am a self-made woman. I myself am the result of who I am now and who I will be tomorrow. A very powerful training.

Mariana“Me and My Shadow” · 2017

After the mystery I fell in love — with Life, with people, with nature; I felt every cell of my body and my soul! Did I become different? Yes, I became REAL!

A participant“Me and My Shadow”

After the mystery I began to walk with confidence, my legs fly forward; I last felt this light at sixteen. I get up easily because an interesting day is ahead. I am different: the person I really am.

Liudmyla“Me and My Body” · 2015

I love the calm deep inside me, when on the surface of my life there is action and inside there is clarity that I am where I need to be and who I need to be. There is no way back, I know that for sure now!

E.“Me and the Summit”, Kazbek · 2016

A truly amazing seminar. I did it twice, and each time it was THE EVENT OF THE YEAR for me.

Yulia E.“Me and My Shadow”, Carpathians · 2014

“I AM THE CAUSE OF MY OWN JOY!” I keep telling myself. Not someone, not something: me! That statement made my life simple and clear, bright and joyful, with no conditions.

DianaRetreat in the Carpathians · 2014

First step

Write to me. Let’s begin.

Tell me in a few words what is happening and which format suits you — a consultation, a mystery or a course.