Natalia Valitskaya

Evolutionary psychologist

Natalia Valitskaya

Travel and love, rising to summits outer and inner

I will teach you to recognise manipulation and play by your own rules, and help you step out of the Karpman triangle to regain control and ease in life.

Kyiv and online

The route: four summits, four ways to work together

What brings people

What people come to me with

  • Difficult relationships

    Codependency, manipulation, toxic patterns. Stepping out of the roles of Victim, Persecutor and Rescuer.

  • Crisis and choice

    Times of Hamlet’s questions: “to be or not to be, with this one or that one, to act or not, to leave or to stay?”

  • Fear and self-worth

    Turning inner fears into personal self-respect.

  • Meeting your Shadow

    Reclaiming the denied but living parts of yourself. That is where the resource lies.

  • Inner voices and burnout

    Dialogue with sub-personalities when different “selves” argue inside. Getting your strength back.

  • Women after 40

    The magical age, life’s equator: an initiation into new meaning and freedom.

Natalia Valitskaya with open palms

Personal consultation

The first meeting is a route

In our first conversation we build the route together. It is like bringing things into focus or clearing the fog: it becomes clear where to go and how to get there.

Format
Online or face to face
Tools
Voice dialogue, holotropic journey, birth chart, art-based exploration
Fee and time
Agreed personally
First question
Answered free of charge

Recorded courses and talks

Start at your own pace

In-depth knowledge about relationships, self-worth and leaving toxic patterns behind. Choose your path to freedom.

  • Talks The magical age, life’s equator: a woman’s initiation after 40 into new meaning and freedom Ukrainian · Russian 650 UAH Get it →
  • Talks How you treat your period mirrors your relationships Ukrainian · Russian 650 UAH Get it →
  • Talk Seven kinds of relationships Russian 400 UAH Get it →
  • Talk The Magic Wheel: a tool for growth and life balance Russian 400 UAH Get it →
  • Printed poster Poster guide: stepping out of the Karpman triangle Ukrainian from 200 UAH Get it →

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Flagship mystery · since 2010

“Me and My Shadow”

A multi-day retreat: constellations, role play, holotropic breathwork

An extreme laboratory of psychological stretching. A training quest.

The resource lies in the Shadow, in the denied (yet existing!) parts of the personality: forgotten, condemned, suppressed. In the brave it is the inner Coward; in the careless, the inner Controller.

I like to call “Me and My Shadow” a psychic slalom: the descent from the mountain of the Ego is swift, and results come fast.

Group
up to 12 people
Rule
“STOP”
Where
near Kyiv
A human shadow inside a rainbow halo on the fog

Upcoming events

Where we meet next

New dates are coming soon. Message me to hear first.

Announcements on the Telegram channel →

Recently

  • 3 October — 4 October 2026 Seminar-mystery “Dance with the Shadow” Hostomel
  • 21 September — 22 September 2026 “Mystery of Transition” (equinox) Near Kyiv, Hostomel
  • 4 September 2026 “Healing Relationships”, a constellation workshop Kyiv
  • 20 July — 27 July 2026 Camp-mystery “Me and My Body” Tent camp near Kyiv, by the Kyiv Sea

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Natalia Valitskaya in a yellow jacket

Approach

Not “why” but “what for”

For the people who come to me, I offer guidance in development rather than classical psychotherapy.

Instead of the typical psychologist’s question, “Why did this happen to you?”, together we look for the answer to “What is this happening for?” Seen this way, any dramatic past becomes an ally and a support for your future.

  • Family systems constellation facilitator and crisis therapist, a guide to the resource of the Shadow
  • Founder of the White Wind studio: extreme journeys, original trainings and mysteries
  • Rebirthing and holotropic breathwork, transpersonal psychology, shamanic rituals of the world
  • Alfa-Gravity trainer, author of a method of gravity practices
  • Higher education: Drahomanov Pedagogical University, Kyiv
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Summits

Summits outer and inner

Extreme expeditions are also a ground for my own growth. To explore the true, ever-widening limits of human possibility, I “have to” seek experience beyond the edge.

5,642 m Elbrus · 2010 5,137 m Ararat · 2012 5,895 m Kilimanjaro · 2013 5,033 m Kazbek · 2016
  1. 5,642 m Elbrus 2010 · Caucasus
  2. 5,137 m Ararat 2012 · Turkey
  3. 5,895 m Kilimanjaro 2013 · Tanzania
  4. 5,033 m Kazbek 2016 · Georgia
  • 2011 Winter retreat in the Marmarosh range
  • 2014 Natural purity
  • 2015 In underwater caves
  • 2016 Lights of Rio and stars of the Amazon
  • 2017 Transformations
  • 2019 Madagascar, a vanishing paradise

Testimonials

In their own words

I finally understood… after “Me and My Shadow” I understood that I am a self-made woman. I myself am the result of who I am now and who I will be tomorrow. A very powerful training.

Mariana“Me and My Shadow” · 2017

After the mystery I fell in love — with Life, with people, with nature; I felt every cell of my body and my soul! Did I become different? Yes, I became REAL!

A participant“Me and My Shadow”

After the mystery I began to walk with confidence, my legs fly forward; I last felt this light at sixteen. I get up easily because an interesting day is ahead. I am different: the person I really am.

Liudmyla“Me and My Body” · 2015

I love the calm deep inside me, when on the surface of my life there is action and inside there is clarity that I am where I need to be and who I need to be. There is no way back, I know that for sure now!

E.“Me and the Summit”, Kazbek · 2016

A truly amazing seminar. I did it twice, and each time it was THE EVENT OF THE YEAR for me.

Yulia E.“Me and My Shadow”, Carpathians · 2014

“I AM THE CAUSE OF MY OWN JOY!” I keep telling myself. Not someone, not something: me! That statement made my life simple and clear, bright and joyful, with no conditions.

DianaRetreat in the Carpathians · 2014

Safety and boundaries

Depth needs safety

The “STOP” rule

It applies throughout. Anyone may decline any practice that does not feel right for them, or take a pause.

Confidentiality

Everything you share stays between us. Natalia calls herself “a keeper of personal secrets”.

Breathwork

Holotropic breathwork has contraindications: heart conditions and high blood pressure, pregnancy, epilepsy, recent surgery, severe mental illness. Please tell us about your health beforehand.

First step

Write to me. Let’s begin.

Tell me in a few words what is happening and which format suits you — a consultation, a mystery or a course.