My Philosophy

an essay on love

I love you, Human Being.
I love the work you live by.
I love your LOVE for the World.
I admire…
Neither age, nor sex, nor status can diminish my admiration, my respect.
The joy of knowing that such people exist in the World.
I have loved you for a very long time, not for one life, not for one epoch, not for one Aeon…
No degree of closeness compares with this.
There is no need for any degree of possession, for it would diminish the mission.
No, I don’t want a single scrap…
I contemplate…
And by this I have — Everything…
Your FREEDOM is dearer than any obligation.
For I admire how you wield IT.
To rise above human bustle is to think of You, of your-own path:
“One day I, too, Will be able to!..”
The horizon moves away and I will not hold it… not for anything!

To the Archetype. Summer 2007.

Unconditional love…

It is not directed at the outer. It is turned towards the essence. Its source is Love of Life. It happens not out of lack but out of overflow. That is why there are no conditions in it, no need to “have” anyone. It is outside time. It — this love — has already received everything… It is admiration and gratitude.

Pleasure

Everyone wants to enjoy themselves. But the main pleasure comes when everyone is enjoying themselves because you are enjoying yourself.

Where love comes from…

There are only two reasons why a person falls in love.

The first — admiration for a quality you would like to develop in yourself: the wish to be like them, to learn to do it too… or the joy of recognition: I’m the same! (which is in essence the same thing — love for a Valuable quality of character, for an ability.
The second — gratitude for the experience of your own WORTH next to a certain person.

For example: next to this person I feel like a needed, loved “super-woman”. And often the state gets identified with this person, hence clinging, jealousy and so on. But he is only a catalyst, the state is YOUR achievement! This experience is already you. It is not him, it is YOU who are wonderful.

So it turns out that at the base of the 2 reasons lies one — LOVE FOR YOURSELF AS WONDERFUL. For your higher Self. The striving for the self-perfection of your nature.
And thank you to the others, they are beacons on the way of knowing and unfolding yourself.

There are no one’s “other halves” — that is a romantic illusion. It’s just that partnerships help us develop. A stimulus to grow and to change. We go through different stages of our life with different people. They are all our teachers.

Thank you all — for the lessons of love for yourself.

Sacred?

Yes, I think “We” have lost our way badly.
Here is a topic for discussion — Technical progress and Evolution: two opposite directions!?

Let me explain: in some “backward” tribes people are psychologically and emotionally more mature and free of neurotic complexes. In our civilised society a person remains a difficult teenager all their life, and, if you check, their emotional age rarely exceeds 2–3 years, often it is infancy altogether…

It may be that progress itself is the consequence of a chronic dissatisfaction with being, that is, a constructive neurosis. And however far humankind goes along the path of technical progress, it will not come closer to what matters… there is no happiness — “fake Christmas-tree baubles”… a neurosis is a neurosis.
A human being is originally a deeply religious creature, but not in the modern understanding of the word religion. For an originally healthy Human Being Life, Death, Sex, Food are SACRED — HOLY.

In earlier times, and in “backward” tribes, a person went through a series of initiations in the course of their life… for which they were prepared for a long time. This gave them the chance to live through a mystical experience of TRANSITION personally… They “died” and were “born” anew. And the tribe played out the mysteries of gods and heroes, thereby reproducing the beginning of the cosmogony again. The primary Archetypal plots are found on all continents! They are all the same!

And this deep need to live through the drama of the hero lives in modern man too, but it has been pushed down into the subconscious. Fiction is the product of pushing into the subconscious the unlived basic human needs for participation in Life — the Sacred!
Yes, yes, there is sacred Rage, sacred Love, sacred Pain, sacred Death — Transformation!

Modern man suffers and dies many times.
BUT! is not born anew! Because all his suffering is UNCONSCIOUS, and if so, then pointless, and does not lead to transformation.
A deformed creature — the modern civilised human being, in need of straightening out.

Sahis /A letter on the occasion/ 13.04.2009

Living by dancing

If you see a person standing alone at the roadside of life and you want to invite them to dance, make sure they have legs in their trousers and not prostheses, otherwise they will rightly accuse you of cruelty. By discovering, willingly or unwillingly, what they are trying to hide in order to pass as whole, you make yourself an enemy.
Dance with those who can afford this joy — living by dancing.
Natalia Valitskaya, autumn 2006

The desire for money

What one person does, another can repeat.

Money is not an end in itself, and the opportunities it opens up are not the goal either. If you look deeper, behind all of this, it becomes clear: PLEASURE — that is what people want.
Not money, not sex, but precisely what is behind them — pleasure. Both money and sex promise the satisfaction of needs, but do not guarantee pleasure. There are many kinds of needs: for food, for warmth, for company, for approval, for recognition, for self-realisation… There is a need to breathe… and the satisfaction of any of them should bring pleasure. Pleasure is the merging of the essence with the need.
BUT the problem is that people have unlearned how to enjoy life. In many this mechanism is broken, it needs mending. When this ability is restored, life falls into place, and money plays a rather conditional role in all this.
I don’t believe that a person wants money.
Well, if you don’t look deep, then of course everyone wants money and sex and God knows what else…

Having lost causality…

The loss of causality happens in connection with failed goals and with disapproval (condemnation) of yourself by yourself or of yourself by others. A person loses faith that HE is the cause of everything that is in his life. And his causality mutates. It mutates or degrades gradually. The less he believes that he is the cause of the events of his life, the stronger his wish to be the cause of someone else’s life, someone else’s feelings, someone’s joys, or better still Love (for himself: “where is the heart that will love me….”) or, failing that, someone’s sadness, resentment-guilt, pain or disappointment — “after all, I am not nothing.”

A person can bear a great deal, but he will never agree that he is nothing, that he does not exist. He feels that this is not so. He is still not sure, but a presentiment makes him look for proof. He — Is! And He will prove it! And the only way to prove it to himself, for most people, is to be the cause of changes and to watch them, to make sure: yes, this is because of me, so I am. Only for the one who knows for certain, only the Creator himself or the Lord God, can simply watch, since he is already the cause of everything. And whoever has come to love people as an extension of himself will also live through participation in the deeds of “humans”, and by watching them will become a co-creator and see himself in it.
Valitskaya 2006

THE SHAMAN

I ran along the foliage of the trees
on the wings of my eyes, dropping thoughts
into the sky, where I was not yet.
Heat, clouds stand above the grass
and between them — Love…
I walked in the footsteps of my soul
after it, I must catch up
with it at all costs,
but very quietly, so as not to startle the moths
from its lashes, and, looking into its eyes, to vanish
Having Known Myself.
And there will be no more “whatever it takes”
Just Living …

Natalia Valitskaya